Tuesday 19 January 2016

What is the use of a book without pictures or conversation!?






The decorations for the wedding came from a wide variety of places including wholesale websites, second hand shops and craft shops. Etsy was a go-to place also and I sourced the Alice charms, which became part of the place settings from there, as well as the gorgeous handmade robes which formed part of my BM thank you gifts. 
One website which I kept going back to was DHgate, which seems to stock everything you could ever think of or want! Something that I did spend hours trawling for, and never did get, were Japanese style lanterns with tassels. When I did eventually find exactly the ones I wanted, the import price was so extravagant I had to rethink. In the end I opted for some plain paper lanterns, which were fine, as the bright, decorative parasols made up for where they were lacking in detail!
I got several cheap blankets and throws from Primark, and cushion covers from anywhere and everywhere! I used these for the outside, lounging Bedouin tent area, which my sister @Daisy Shelly design dressed with handmade quilts, bespoke cushions and hanging fabrics to cover the plastic drapes of the tent. The shabby-chic screen was from Joss and Main, (which stocks some absolutely gorgeous pieces), as were the Moroccan style poufs.  If I saw something Alice related I snapped it up: mugs from Waterstones, books from Amazon, playing cards, bunting..... oversized pocket watch from Wilkinson!


I did a huge amount of DIY, (with the help of wonderful family and friends) - we decoupaged glass jars and pegs,  which were used to hang up the Polaroids people took on the day); designed and printed the table signs and seating plans, (for these I used cheap frames from the pound shop!); printed all the labels for favours and put together the kid's activity packs. The Works and The Range were a great provider of crafting bits such as decoupage paper, ribbon and lace. (I had not come across The Range before and I was like a kid in a candy store!) As its name would have you believe, it does indeed sell a vast quantity of stuff!
 
I knew I wanted a variety of looks for the centre pieces, and my florist, (also called Amy!) was more than accommodating to my whims! For one look, I dispensed with flowers altogether
and had some silver twigs used to display gorgeous vintage Christmas tree decorations I had bought.
DIYing so much took a massive amount of time and energy but it was deeply satisfying. I can't say in the end if doing it this way saves a huge amount of money over all, but it was great to flex some creative muscle, and I now have loads of extra bits left over, (I decoupaged my first set of drawers at the weekend - pictures to follow soon!) Buying, rather than hiring, also meant that these pieces of furniture  and accessories are now MINE and I can either dress my flat with them or sell them!
(obviously I am keeping them for now - magpie's don't let things go that easily!)

It was a blast sourcing and making everything but I was really glad to get my 'brain' back after the wedding! In the last few months before it, I literally could think of nothing else and every waking minute that I wasn't at work, I had to be doing something for it. But it had to be done that way really! I read recently that Kat, who writes the blog Rock n Roll bride, started it when she got married, and didn't want to stop writing about weddings so carried it on and it grew into the amazing, beautiful, sparkly thing it now is! That's how I feel a bit. It's strange looking back at the wedding; we now have the professional pics, the video and I am currently writing the thank you cards. It's a little bit melancholy, in a strange way! Not so much because it's been and gone - it's hard to explain. I guess partly it is because it becomes your whole world for a year or so, and then: poof! 
Oh well, hopefully a few more friends will get engaged so I can stick my beak into their arrangements!....

Need a wedding planner, anyone!?

Sunday 17 January 2016

Six Impossible Things Before Breakfast!



The run up to the wedding was...well, intense! We got engaged on Halloween, in Paris and had just over a year and a half to plan. We visited quite a few venues, including a spectacular one near Canterbury, (which included its very own carousel and 2, yes 2, original Art Nouveau organs.) I fell in love with that venue, but the brutal reality that we weren't on a film star's budget kicked in and that one had to be sadly sidelined! However, I am super glad we went with Marks Hall, in Coggeshall. Getting married through Braintree Registry office, (where I grew up) was not important to me at the start, but it became more meaningful as the process went on. 

In the end it was a very difficult choice between Marsh Farm in Beccles in Norfolk and Marks Hall. Getting married outside was one of our priorities, so we went for Marks and I am so glad we did.

The Alice in wonderland theme seemed to develop organically, (and indeed it took on a life of its own!) Throughout the planning stages I weaved in and out of many 'themes', including Mexicana, twee vintage, 50s, art deco / nouveau, Day of the Dead... 

I am so happy we went with Alice in the end, (I didn't really intend for the entire wedding to be themed, as such) - I guess it's for other people to decide if it was or not! Certainly, I didn't choose my BM dresses in relation, I just chose the ones I liked and ones that complimented mine. ('Tonal range' - as we kept saying throughout the process!) I was definite that I wanted a whole heap of BMs, - this felt a bit indulgent at first, but all those women have been so important to me in my life so they had to be included.

The Groomsmen's hats and jackets were a last minute addition, but I am happy they were included and I think they look great in the photos! (Their styling was by Saskia @ The Lion, The Bitch & The Wardrobe). 

Deciding on decor when you are a magpie is so hard! There are so many styles I like and the wedding, (and my dress) could have gone in a million different directions. The dress in itself was a magnificent journey. I searched long and hard on the internet for a designer. In the end it was a close race between Cymbeline and Joanne Fleming, and I am over the moon I went for Jo! I got an original, bespoke, made to measure, fairy tale dress! The year before, Brighton had emerged as a very important town to us. I was a BM for my friend Toni, whose dresses had a 50s feel and our designer was down in Brighton. This is where Joanne is based, so that seemed like another reason to chose her, as it meant many trips for fittings in the run up to the wedding; she is so, so talented, easy going and super unpretentious! It was a sheer delight visiting her basement studio of wonder and delight, and I will miss those visits. 

During the run-up to  the wedidng I  collected vases, decorations, ornaments, parasols, bunting etc as I went along. I knew the overall effect would be a bit 'mish-mash' as I kept calling it, but I felt, (and hoped) this would be ok! My sister, Erin (@ Daisy Shelly Designs)  was a tremendous help, and made some beautiful curtains, quilts and cushions for my Bedouin tent area.
My husband is Australian, and we were so pleased and grateful his father and his partner and siblings, (who still live there - his mum is now based in the UK) came over for the wedding; especially given the journey and the cost involved. 

The day seemed to whiz by, (as I knew it would) in a series of snap shots! We were blessed with the sunniest of days, (although the wasps were making the most of it too!) We even had our own special circular rainbow around the sun! 

Rob and I wrote our own vows (his idea!) I felt a little trepidation at first, but was really please we chose to do this as it was personal and specific to us. (We managed to get a few musical and Alice references in too!).




Our registrar was great and did an incredible job - especially considering she was allergic to wasps! The staff at Mark's Hall were lovely as well, and really laidback yet attentive throughout the while process.  
 
I had written a speech, but wasn't sure if I'd bottle it on the day! From the off though, I knew there was no doubt in my mind that I would give it: I wanted to thank everyone who had helped, so generously and selflessly, to get me and Rob to that place in our lives.  It was important for us that we included so many of our talented and creative friends and family in the wedding and we are eternally grateful for all their help, love and support! 





Contributors:
Groomsmen's hats: The Lion, The Bitch & the Wardrobe
Bedouin tent area, quilts and fabric hangings: Daisy Shelly Design
Flowers: Amy @ Kersey Mill
Brides Dress: Joanne Fleming Design 
Makeup artists: Katie Louise Jones & Lucy Parker
Hair: Kool Kuts
VW Vans: Custard Campers
Professional Pictures: Sabrina Dallot-Seguro
Professional videographer: Rackett Media
Overall design / table arrangements and ornaments: Bride
DJ: Roly
Band: The FOG
Face Painting: The Wizard (Simon Rogers)